Men's Life
MALE VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS A SIGNIFICANT ISSUE IN SOCIETY AND OUR GOAL IS TO BE PART OF THE SOLUTION FOR ADDRESSING THE ISSUE AS A WHOLE, REALISING THAT MEN TOO CAN BE VICTIMS.
WE ENDEAVOUR TO SUPPORT MEN WHEN THEY FIND THEMSELVES THE VICTIM IN A DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SITUATION WHETHER IT INVOLVES PHYSICAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE.
MEN DESERVE TO BE SUPPORTED TOO!
"The only way to find a new path is to walk it"
Ken Kitson
The Challenges Men Face as
Victims of Domestic Violence
The single biggest challenge facing me who find themselves as victims of domestic violence is that, men don't like to see themselves as victims!
The current social narrative has been almost completely hijacked by the feminist movement. To the point where the media and government are completely blind to the real extent of the domestic violence challenges facing society. What's more, should someone dare to speak of men as being victims they are accused of discounting women as victims and in fact labelled as being sexist.
Isn't the fact that research, (which the "system" ignores) proves that both genders can be victims, but we are not allowed to speak of it, in itself, sexist?
Whats more, even government programs aimed at men are aimed at men, labelling them as always the perpetrators or potential perpetrators.
Men have every right to second guess themselves and not take action at all.
There are several other challenges men face with regard to dealing with abusive relationships.
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Men have ego issues relating seeing themselves as victim.
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Men do not want the social stigma of admitting they have been a victim
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Men don't want to appear less “manly”
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There's far less support for men in society.
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The societal narrative that men are always the perpetrators and women always the victims.
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Fear of being labelled as the perpetrator
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Women are the ones who are always believed and do twist a story around so they are seen as the victim.
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Men are often in denial
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Men feel ashamed
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In practical terms, men aren’t homemakers so setting up from scratch is harder.
While women can be physically abusive, they are also far more likely to be emotionally and controlling abusive. A man can be excused for second guessing himself about what he is experiencing as such intangible abuse is almost impossible to quantify. This is potentially more damaging as men accept since it can be put down to "just another fight". To be clear, abuse is not a fight. Abuse is malicious, with the intent to hurt.
Men's Support Group
Men can be and are victims of domestic violence too.
We operate online support groups to help men who find themselves either at risk of domestic violence or are finding themselves as victims
The current social narrative completely ignores the fact that there are men who are victims of domestic violence. There is also next to no support for men who find themselves in these situations. In fact, men are made to feel alone and to feel, less than a man if he should reach out to authorities or current domestic violence services.
What concerns us, besides the fact that support services for men are few and far between is that men are far less likely to take action than women. They are not encouraged to. We're encouraging you to.
Whether you are finding yourself experiencing either physical or psychological abuse, you owe it to yourself to seek support and help. We keep groups small so interaction is easy. It's a safe place for men to support other men in similar situations. Importantly, this is not just where you'll hear "you'll be right bro". It's a group where you're supported to take actions to improve your life.
